Does every day feel like Groundhog Day—repeating the same patterns, thoughts, or emotional conflicts over and over again?

You’re not alone. I work with adults, parents, and teens who struggle with self-esteem, anxiety, depression, relationship and attachment issues, or simply a sense that something is missing. Many of my clients carry a deep sense of disconnection—from themselves, from others, or from the lives they’re living.

Maybe you’ve been doing the best you can with the tools you’ve been given—until now. As Maya Angelou said, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”

The Gap Between Knowing and Doing - I believe the gap between learning and applying knowledge is where many problems live. That knowledge—at any age—is only powerful when we know how to use it. Many of the challenges we face aren’t because we don’t know enough, but because we haven’t learned how to apply what we know. From my perspective, the “problems” people come to therapy with are actually attempted solutions—strategies they’ve developed in good faith to try to grow or cope with the challenges they face, or for couples and parents, strategies you’ve developed in good faith to try to connect or grow in the relationship. The truth is, it’s common for these attempted solutions to create new problems in our lives and in our relationships. Another way to say this is that problems (individual or within our relationships) are just signals that something in us is still trying to integrate the lessons learned from the unique experiences that have tested us throughout our lives.

Restoring Connection to Self - At the heart of my work is a belief that we each have an intuitive sense of how to live in alignment with our true selves—but many of us have simply lost access to that inner knowing because our problems leave us fighting for survival. This disconnection is often learned, and often just another attempt at solving problems. Over time, we become so distant from our internal compass, disconnected from ourselves, perpetuating the same problems and the same cycles, and in our relationships, it often leads to disconnection from others—even when closeness might appear to exist on the surface in our relationships. In our work together, individually or with parents and their children, we will restore the connection to self (for everyone), which will spill out into the connection with one another and the connection with your children. Not only that, but studies show that when we restore the connection to ourselves, we are breaking multigenerational patterns, changing the trajectory of our own lives, the lives of our children, and their children, and so on. Healing is an inside job, in our work together we will get to the root of the problem.

Journey Back to Yourself - I believe that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the relationship you have with yourself. In my work with individuals or parents and children, I start with YOU. When you each shine the light on yourself to deeply connect with and peel back the layered experiences that have accumulated throughout your life, you’ll naturally begin to change how you RELATE to yourself, then, you’ll expect yourself to show up in your life as the best version of yourself, you’ll tune into your own needs first and YOU’LL HONOR THEM. With partnerships, both of you will experience this. In fact, the expectation that others must show up for you a certain way or meet those needs will likely dissolve. Why? I believe that in order to have compassion for someone else, we need to first have compassion for our own struggles, we have to acknowledge the things that hurt us and the things that grow us, not stay stuck in them, and when we have compassion for our own struggles and hard won battles, we stop expecting others to see them, we stop trying to be perfect, we stop avoiding, we stop ignoring, we start facing ourselves-we become authentic. We need to acknowledge our own pain and the maladaptive ways in which we’ve coped with it, i.e. the ways in which we’ve treated ourselves or responded to others, our children, etc. because all behavior is communication, and without that self-awareness and compassion we will struggle to truly see the suffering that others are communicating to us through their behavior-which is what I believe to be the root of what often leads to the problems we face in relationships, especially with our children. When we see our suffering and accept how we’ve been communicating it, we can see another’s suffering and accept them as they are without trying to change them or persuade them to meet our needs. Thus, the expectation that others must show up for you a certain way or meet needs that you don’t know how to even meet yourself, will likely dissolve. Why again? Because can we expect someone to meet needs of ours that we don’t even know how to meet ourselves? The alternative is to understand ourselves so deeply, and because we understand our own journey, meet others where they are, teach others about who we are, and allow them to do what they are capable of doing with the information we teach them, without expecting them to be at the same stage… a way of being that is rooted in the choice to be authentic and raw.

I believe that most people wake up every morning with a desire to do the best they can. On the journey back to yourself, you will eventually wake up every morning and remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can, your partner is doing the best they can, your kids are doing the best they can, their teachers are doing the best they can, your coworkers are doing the best they can, the grocery store clerk is doing the best they can, and so on. And when it seems like that’s not the case, you’ll learn effective ways to communicate with yourself and with others so you can truly solve some of these problems yourself. The journey begins with a single step-a choice.

What to Expect on The Journey - My goal is to help you (individuals or couples/parents) reconnect with your internal compass, or intuitive sense, I start with increasing self-awareness, using mindfulness, body awareness, and self-inquiry to assist you in feeling and interpreting emotions as meaningful intuitive signals rather than obstacles or threats. My goal is to help you interpret what your (or your child’s) symptoms and maladaptive coping strategies are communicating to you, and to others. Some people want to know how those signals evolved, some people don’t. Throughout our time together, at appropriate times, we will explore your origin story to help you make sense of how your (or your child’s) intuition developed, if that’s important to you. I use an integrative and systemic approach, employing psychoeducation from a relational lens, teaching self-inquiry and self-reflection techniques along with communication and behavioral strategies. I also use an emotion coaching framework and nervous system-informed strategies. As clients learn to make sense of their emotions, behaviors, and thoughts, and they begin to understand themselves from multiple perspectives, the old familiar stories start to have new meaning, how you relate to yourself when emotions are activated will change, allowing you to rewrite the narrative. The goal is for you to see yourself, others, and your problems differently, with more compassion and acceptance of not only your own life experiences, but every human being’s unique journey to what I believe is the same destination - OURSELVES. While it’s not a guarantee, this approach is brings hope of freeing you up for more enjoyable, intentional, moments in your life.

You, Your Partner, and Your Children Deserve to Live a Story That Feels Like Your/Their Own - It's your story... I’m here to empower, and give permission if needed, to change the story if you want to. Together, we’ll work to help you build a relationship with yourself, your family members, your children, and everyone you come in contact with. Te Veo, I look forward to working with you.

My Story - I received my Master of Science, in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of New Hampshire in 2022. I am also a Level III Reiki Master/Teacher and enjoy integrating energy work into my practice.

New Hampshire - Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #722

Florida - Telehealth Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, #TPMF1794 (https://mqa-internet.doh.state.fl.us/mqasearchservices/healthcareproviders)

South Carolina - Telehealth Registered Marriage and Family Therapist, #2336 (https://llr.sc.gov/Telehealth/Counselor.html)