Does every day feel like Groundhog Day (the film)—repeating the same patterns, thoughts, or emotional conflicts over and over again? You are not alone. I work with adults and parents who struggle with self-esteem, a sense that something is missing in their lives, anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and childhood trauma. Those who have worked with me once carried a deep sense of disconnection—from themselves, from others, or from the very lives they are living.

As Maya Angelou said, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”

The Gap Between Knowing and Doing
I believe that recurring problems are signals that something within us is still trying to integrate the lessons learned from unique past experiences that have tested us throughout our lives. I believe the gap between learning and applying this knowledge is where many problems reside.

Knowledge—at any age—is only powerful when we know how to use it. Many of the challenges we face are not due to a lack of knowledge, but rather because we have not learned how to apply what we intuitively know. The problems we bring to therapy are often attempted solutions to other issues—strategies developed in good faith, based on knowledge we have gained, to help us cope with challenges or to connect and grow in our relationships. The truth is, these attempted solutions often lead to more problems until we figure out how to apply the knowledge we have acquired; often, we need outside help for that.

Restoring Connection to Self
At the heart of my work is the belief that each of us has an intuitive sense of how to live in alignment with our true selves—but many have lost access to that inner knowing because our problems leave us fighting for survival. This disconnection is often learned and is frequently another attempt at solving problems. Over time, we become distant from our internal compass, disconnected from ourselves, and perpetuate the same problems and cycles. This often leads to disconnection from others—even when closeness might appear to exist on the surface in our relationships. In our work together, whether individually or with parents and their children, we will focus on restoring connection to self for everyone.

Healing is an inside job. In our work together, we will get to the root of the problem.

Journey to Self
I believe the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. In my work with individuals, I start with YOU. In my work with parents, I start with each person as a YOU. When you shine the light on yourself to deeply connect and peel back the layered experiences accumulated throughout your life, you will begin to relate to yourself, your children, and others differently.

My approach to couples is focused on each individual’s level of individuation. Step one in any work I do with couples is for each partner to find their way to Self. This is an important part of my work because I am committed to treating the root cause, not just the symptoms. We cannot do for someone else what we cannot do for ourselves. We learn about ourselves and our needs through every experience we’ve had in and outside of the families we grow up in, but how often do we actually reflect on what we have learned or failed to learn? That is why the journey to Self is so important. It is not someone else’s job to guess what we need; it is our job to know ourselves so well that we understand what we need and do not need, and then it’s our job to to teach others about those needs. To do that, we must get to know ourselves first.

Becoming Authentic
Authenticity is the highest feeling (frequency) available to any human. To be authentic is to know what we stand for, what we value and do not value, what we like and dislike, and to communicate assertively, knowing we will not always please everyone. To reach that level of authenticity, we must acknowledge our own pain and the maladaptive ways in which we have coped with it and still have compassion for ourselves. All behavior is communication, and it is a skill to acknowledge what our behaviors are communicating to Self and others. Without self-awareness and self-compassion, we will always struggle to see the suffering that others are communicating to us through their behavior. I believe this is the root of the problems we face in relationships, especially with our children, because blame and defensiveness keep us from leaning into ourselves with understanding so we stay stuck and miss the lessons entirely. When we are honest about our struggles and accept our role in our personal lives and relationships, we naturally have more compassion for another’s joy and suffering, accepting them as they are without trying to change them or persuade them to be someone they are not (i.e., to meet needs they do not know how to meet themselves).

I believe most people wake up every morning with a desire to do the best they can; we just do not take a moment to remind ourselves of that. On the journey to Self, my hope is that you will eventually wake up every morning and intentionally remind yourself that you are doing your best today, your partner is doing the best they can, your kids are doing the best they can, their teachers are doing the best they can, your coworkers are doing the best they can, the grocery store clerk is doing the best they can, and so on. And when it seems like that is not the case, my goal is to teach you effective ways to communicate that with yourself and others so you can truly solve some of these problems together.

The journey begins with a single choice.

What to Expect on the Journey
My goal is to help you reconnect with your internal compass or intuitive sense. I begin by increasing self-awareness, using mindfulness, body awareness, and self-inquiry to assist you in feeling and interpreting emotions as meaningful intuitive signals rather than obstacles or threats. I hope to help you interpret what your symptoms and maladaptive coping strategies are communicating to you and to others, so you can find new ways to communicate. Throughout our time together, at appropriate moments, we will explore your origin story to help you make sense of the ways your experiences have shaped your intuitive sense, if that is important to you.

I use an integrative, systemic, and trauma-informed approach, employing psychoeducation from a relational lens, teaching self-inquiry and self-reflection techniques, along with communication and behavioral strategies. I also use an emotion coaching framework and nervous system-informed strategies. The goal is for you to see yourself, others, and your problems differently, with more compassion and acceptance of not only your own life circumstances, but every human being’s unique journey to what I believe is the same destination—OURSELVES. While it is not a guarantee, this approach brings hope of freeing you for more enjoyable, intentional moments in your life.

You deserve to live a story that feels like your own. It is your story. I am here to empower you, and to give permission if needed, to change your story if you want to. Together, we will work to help you build a relationship with yourself, your family members, your children, and everyone you encounter. Te Veo—I look forward to working with you.

My Story
A journey and many lessons have led me down this path. Grateful and humbled, I received my Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of New Hampshire in 2022. I am a Certified Braincore Neurofeedback Provider, passionate about the healing benefits of neurofeedback as an alternative to medication for treating developmental trauma and certain mental health conditions. I am also a Level III Reiki Master/Teacher and enjoy integrating energy work and intuitive development into my practice. I look forward to meeting you.

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